The Worst Thing a Woman Can be is Mean

The recent Chappell Roan incident shows that a woman can do nothing wrong and still face backlash because a man was upset.

The story dominating the internet this weekend is an accusation from soccer player, Jorginho, that Chappell Roan made his step-daughter cry.

You can read other articles that get into depth about what happened. But basically, the girl and her mother were in the same hotel as Chappell Roan. The little girl got up and circled Chappell’s table to see if it was her, then went back to her table, where she was then harassed by security. Initially, people thought it was Chappell Roan’s security, but the singer later clarified that it was the hotel’s, and she was completely unaware of the little girl and what had happened.

Since Jorginho’s post went up, much of the Internet has been relentlessly attacking Chappell Roan. I’ve seen it all over Reddit, Facebook, and Threads. People are bringing up her past interactions with fans, saying she should apologize to the girl and send her a gift, saying that she should not behave that way because she’s famous, etc. It’s not even what people are saying that I find alarming; it’s the volume. This story is everywhere, and a lot of people are stepping in to offer their two cents, which are often quite accusatory and mean.

It just frustrates me that a woman who was unaware of a situation and had nothing to do with it is expected to apologize and take accountability, all while having insults hurled at her as if she killed the kid or something. Sure, Chappell Roann is not known for being warm and fuzzy; she likes her privacy, and she has been very vocal about it. And there is nothing wrong with that. It would be nice if every celebrity wanted to interact with their fans, but they are not obliged to do that. We are not entitled to someone’s time and attention just because we like their work.

Everyone is attacking her, but I don’t think this incident should have happened in the first place because why was the little girl walking around Chappell Roan? Her mother allowed it, which she should not have. That may be a hot take, but see it from the level of Chappell Roan and Jorginho’s tax bracket. They’re famous (albeit I don’t know who he is, personally). They are staying in an elite hotel with other VIPs. As a child of a celebrity, you would think her parents would understand wanting privacy when you are not at work and just trying to enjoy breakfast. I know it’s exciting to see someone famous, but there is a time and place. Eating and/or using the washroom, I thought, were universally agreed-upon times celebrities should be left alone, no matter what.

And yet, some mom let her daughter go circle Chappell Roan in the middle of eating, the hotel security stepped in and told her to leave her alone, the kid cried, and then her step-dad took to Instagram to attack a singer for an incident that, as I understand it, he was not even there for. Like, am I missing something? What did she do that warrants such a huge public backlash?

This just goes to show the sickeningly high standard women are held to. Chappell Roan did nothing but because a man said she made his step-daughter cry, the public is still mad. The sitting US president is a known pedophile and started a war in West Asia to distract from the proof of his crimes. Why would we direct anger at a singer for wanting privacy over that??

And the kicker: Shia LaBeouf was caught on video yelling at a woman on a patio in Rome, and it’s getting minimal news coverage. A man was confirmed to be mean to a woman = minimal coverage. A woman wasn’t mean, but a man was upset anyway = national news.

Christ.